The Importance of Boredom


"I'm bored mom", this is not an uncommon thing to hear in our home, in particular between the hours of 3-5pm before dinner.  I think many of us have said these words to our parents and what we often heard in response was "If you're bored, I'll give you something to do".  Then I don't know about you but I would very quickly find a way to busy myself before being hit with a task of some sort of house cleaning.  In our home now we do things a bit differently, when our kids say this, our intentional response is "bored is an ok feeling to have".  They obviously don't love hearing this because it in no way changes there present state, and they are stuck with the pain of boredom. The pain of boredom.  Boredom really can feel like pain, or lead to unresolved pain surfacing when we sit in the midst of this feeling.  This is why all of as humans don't want to feel it, we want to stay busy enough to avoid the pain of boredom, to avoid any pain that may surface.

Recently I listened to an insightful podcast by Rob Bell called the 'Importance of Boredom'.  He dives into a critical problem for us as humanity today with our screen time, which is that we always have an escape from boredom through our 'tiny computers that we are tethered to'.  There's a very real cost for us when we are in a constant state of escaping boredom.  Whether we are adult or children, boredom is the space where we begin to creatively process our unresolved issues, and find movement towards growth and healing.

Danielle Braun-Kauffman RCC

Have a listen to this episode of the Robcast below: